We all create perfect traps so we can grow. We marry the person who triggers our desire and anger, showing us exactly how we are incomplete. We throw ourselves into jobs to validate our cherished ideas… and learn along the way how we are wrong. We get bored with solitude and stability, and leave our nests to find something new. We destroy our external systems to master new ways of being, one baby step at a time. On the surface, we struggle with reality, but our secret objective and intention is to accept it. To see it and savor it.…